Archive | Adoption

Sandcastles and Waves

Written By: Marni Denenberg, an Adult Adoptee and Adoption Professional marnijill@comcast.net Life as a teenager is often described as “the best of times,” but also confusing times. For the teen who was adopted, it may seem even more confusing. I was there, I know. I was adopted at birth. All I knew about my adoption: it was […]

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Lucky Girl: A Memoir

Book Review by Susan Merkel Lucky Girl: A Memoir by Mei-Ling Hopgood ISBN: 9781565126008 In the mid- 1960s renowned adoption professional David Kirk of Canada released the results of his first study on why some adoptees are happier than others, ground breaking research that became the basis for the move to open adoption. Since then, social workers, […]

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Becoming a “Public Family”

Preparing for Trans racial/Cultural Adoption Written By: Jane Cramer, MSW, IAC Center Counselor specializing in international adoption, foster to adoption, work with adopted children What is a public family? When families adopt a child from a different race or culture it is usually obvious to strangers that their child joined their family through adoption. This makes […]

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White Skin on My Hands

Written By: T. Reid I’m not seeking validation or to make you feel bad I just want you to know what a tough time I had An adopted child you wanted to have But at my expense I made you glad I eased you mind, your responsibility About raising a black child in a white […]

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First Mothers Day

Quotes from new adoptive moms about how it feels to celebrate their first or second Mother’s day Christine, mother of Angela born May 8th, 2008 On my first Mother’s day we were driving our daughter home from the hospital. She was 3 days old. It was May 11th, 2008, and it was the most amazing day of my life. […]

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Cultural and Culinary Delights

By Maryann Post June 2009 Our family is in process to adopt a baby girl from Korea, hopefully by the end of this year. As an adoption support group participant at the IAC Center, I was invited by Joni Mantell to attend a special luncheon for anyone interested in learning more about the history of Korea, as well […]

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10 Painful Lessons I Learned Too Late As An Adoptive Father

Written By: John Brooks Lately I’ve been stumbling across various blog postings about things people have learned about [fill in the blank], things they want you to know about [fill in the blank], things you wish you could say to [fill in the blank.] They come from adoptive families, adopted people and others within and outside the adoption triad. […]

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Adoptive Parents Invest More than Biological Parents in Kids

Newswise — Adoptive parents invest more time and financial resources in their children compared with biological parents, according to the results of a national study that challenges the more conventional view — emphasized in legal and scholarly debates — that children are better off with their biological parents.The study, by sociologists at Indiana University Bloomington and the University of Connecticut, […]

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Parenting Challenging Teens

Written By: Norm Thibault, PhD, LMFT Executive Director of Three Points Center  For those who watch for it, it seems that adoption has been presented in a less-than-positive light in the media lately. There is a dangerous trend to equate all adoptions with attachment issues, and to focus solely on the significant problems that can accompany some […]

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5 Key Adoption Issues for Children – Ages 6 to 12

5 Key Issues Children really need to experience a period of adaptive grieving. Children experience intensified feelings about “having been given up for adoption” and may blame them selves or blame others Children experience feelings about being different related to adoptive status and/or physical and cultural differences.  Children may feel insecure and question the permanence of adoption […]

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Adoption: Staying Motivated and Inspired

Written By: Anna Sandbank Now that the proverbial rush of the holiday season has drawn to a close, perhaps we are focused on resolutions we have made for the coming year and how to keep them alive. More often than not, however, we fail to adhere to our own best intentions, likely due to a too ambitious or […]

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