Tag Archives | adoptive families

Surviving Infertility: What it’s normal to feel, even after you adopt and fall in love with your child

After struggling for years to have a child, many couples may be caught up in their negative feelings about their infertility. It’s important to work through these feelings together. During a years-long struggle with infertility, couples feel intensely isolated and experience a range of emotions. Most of us expect these feelings to disappear after we […]

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The Perfect Child

Fear that they were placed for adoption because of some flaw can turn some kids into perfectionists. Here’s how you can help them relax that drive. Emily was a talented gymnast—and clearly athletic—but she would not try ice-skating. She didn’t know how to skate, and she wasn’t open to the idea of a learning curve, […]

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Fear of Losing You

Preteen adoptees may develop fears of a parent’s death or loss. Here’s what may be behind such worries, and ways to talk about them. Nine- to 12-year-old’s have seen disasters in the news and may have experienced the death of an older family member. So it’s not uncommon for kids this age to think about […]

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Different, Yet the Same

As children reach school-age, they may start feeling different from their peers. Here are some strategies parents can use to help them find common ground. Between the ages of six and eight, children want to fit in with and measure up to their peers. At school they observe their friends’ families, and realize that their […]

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New Paths to Parenthood

As infertility treatment technology advances, more Americans are turning to assisted reproduction. Here, we look at some of the choices families are making.  After trying for years to have children, Mark and Lucy Johnson* acknowledged a hard fact: Even if they could determine the cause of Lucy’s infertility, her eggs were probably too old to […]

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The Whole Truth

Our children’s adoption stories aren’t always easy. Here, tips for telling the tough stuff to your kids. by Rebecca Klein One of the toughest problems adoptive parents face is that of talking to our children about the reasons they were placed for adoption. Our families are so happy and loving that we hate to bring […]

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Lifebook Lessons

Five experts answer your questions in this how-to guide for creating what will likely become your child’s favorite read-to-me book. by Editorial Team Your child’s story begins before you met. It may contain a large cast of characters, perhaps a touch of mystery, and more drama in a month than many people experience in years. […]

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Time for Camp?

Parents wonder if preteens will experience separation anxiety at sleep away camp. Learn how to tell if yours is ready, and then ease the transition. For many tweens, sleep away camp is an exciting adventure. Spending a few weeks away from home can give a child more confidence and reinforce his feelings of love and […]

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“A Tale to Treasure”

Your child’s adoption story is a tale you’ll tell over and over. Put words (and pictures) to paper with these pointers to create an adoption story book that’s guaranteed to be your child’s favorite bedtime read. by Lisa Milbrand   When my husband and I decided to adopt, we filled our bookshelves with every adoption-related […]

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