Tag Archives | adoptive families

Beyond “Happy”: New Parents Have Complex Feelings

You will feel elated when you finally bring your child home, but you might also experience other emotions on the outskirts of that joy — from lingering sadness about infertility to echoes of failed matches to becoming a parent literally overnight. by Joni Mantell, LCSW You are finally home with your newly adopted child, and you’re […]

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Not Me

Written By: Danny O’Neil “I have good news for you Bob, we’ve been able to locate your mother and she has agreed to talk to you”, she continued, “She’s waiting for your call.” I stood in the middle of my kitchen and felt all light-headed and buzzy. This was a moment I’d always fantasized about. All those […]

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Personal Identity: A Core Issue of Adoption

Written By: Jeremy Robbi, M.A. The development of a positive personal identity is a common theme among transracially-adopted children. As a biracial transracial adoptee myself, I encountered several challenges growing up while developing my own identity. I would advise parents to be cognizant of two things as they endeavor to raise their transracially-adopted child to have a healthy sense […]

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Sandcastles and Waves

Written By: Marni Denenberg, an Adult Adoptee and Adoption Professional marnijill@comcast.net Life as a teenager is often described as “the best of times,” but also confusing times. For the teen who was adopted, it may seem even more confusing. I was there, I know. I was adopted at birth. All I knew about my adoption: it was […]

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Becoming a “Public Family”

Preparing for Trans racial/Cultural Adoption Written By: Jane Cramer, MSW, IAC Center Counselor specializing in international adoption, foster to adoption, work with adopted children What is a public family? When families adopt a child from a different race or culture it is usually obvious to strangers that their child joined their family through adoption. This makes […]

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Juno: Open Adoption, Closed Communication

By Bob Bamman, LCSW The film “Juno”, which opened this week in New York City, has garnered several independent film festival awards and is indeed a moving, very funny, and – for those of us in the adoption field – at times a very disturbing portrayal of a young teen birthmother and her process of planning the […]

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White Skin on My Hands

Written By: T. Reid I’m not seeking validation or to make you feel bad I just want you to know what a tough time I had An adopted child you wanted to have But at my expense I made you glad I eased you mind, your responsibility About raising a black child in a white […]

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First Fathers Day

Quotes from New Adoptive Dad’s About Their First or Second Father’s Day We have so many new fathers at the IAC Center. This year we have a few new contributors, and some great vignettes from last year’s new dads writing about how they feel about their first Father’s Day, and their thoughts for waiting fathers. This is a heart-warming […]

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First Mothers Day

Quotes from new adoptive moms about how it feels to celebrate their first or second Mother’s day Christine, mother of Angela born May 8th, 2008 On my first Mother’s day we were driving our daughter home from the hospital. She was 3 days old. It was May 11th, 2008, and it was the most amazing day of my life. […]

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10 Painful Lessons I Learned Too Late As An Adoptive Father

Written By: John Brooks Lately I’ve been stumbling across various blog postings about things people have learned about [fill in the blank], things they want you to know about [fill in the blank], things you wish you could say to [fill in the blank.] They come from adoptive families, adopted people and others within and outside the adoption triad. […]

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Book Review: Pieces of Me

Susan Merkel Book Review: Pieces of Me Edited by Robert L. Ballard ISBN: 9780972624442 “Who am I?” is a question everyone asks themselves at least once in their life. But for adopted people, especially during their teenage years, the answer can be more elusive, which makes for a much more complicated experience in adolescence and […]

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